Arturo and I try to get to the gym two or three times a week. There is something about the time that we get to the locker rooms after our workout that I often end up there at the same time as two other ladies who are talking. Only the whole time, the same one lady is doing all the talking and the other gives an occasional acknowledgement indicating she is still listening. This got me thinking about a very important skill that is necessary to remember if we want to be a good friend.The art of listening, not just speaking.
This skill is not only important for us as adults, but it’s a good skill to teach our kids as well. Dinner time is an excellent time to teach this skill. Everyone goes around the table sharing how their day went, we ask questions, we show interest, then we move on to the next person. We gently correct little ones if they interrupt and we teach by example by not interrupting, and we don’t skip anyone, no matter their age. The more we do it, the more natural it becomes.
Friendship requires a two way conversation. We share and we let the other person share. Imagine the impact this can have on any relationship; among friends, in marriage or parent/child relationships, with co-workers, etc. One of the greatest gifts we can give each other is to not be the only one talking, but to take time to listen as well.